Romance Tip of the Week

  • Going into a relationship is not about telling her you love her as soon as possible. Sit next to her and have a conversation.  Sometimes, the simplest things are the gateway to a realm where you may be graced with the privilege of discovering and rediscovering her for the person she is.  Take the time to unwrap her heart, one whisper at a time.  Be content that she exists in your life and let everything happen naturally.
  • If you genuinely love her, it means you’ll never have to wish upon a star again. Instead, wish upon her heart.  Let her teardrops become your reason to make her smile, and her smiles encourage you to cheer her to laughter.  Sooner than later, you’ll come to understand that winning a girl’s heart is only the beginning of something beautiful.
  • If you’re striving to be a gentleman, then remember that it has absolutely nothing to do with reflecting on the things you might be doing wrong all the time. A real man spends his time focusing on how to make her feel good about herself.  Humility, after all, is not about putting yourself down, but to put others first.
  • Acknowledgement makes all the difference in the world when it comes to relationships, especially with women. You have to understand that while women don’t like to tell us exactly what they want, the secret lies in their affection.  Their love is in fact also a way of revealing how they desire to be loved by us.  So always, always, always observe the reflections of her romance!
  • When it comes to caring for a girl who had been hurt too many times, don’t give up on her when your feelings are not immediately reciprocated. Be man enough to remain friends until she is finally ready.  And remember that it has absolutely nothing to do with showing her there are good men in the world.  This is about revealing to her she’s still worth something, that she’s someone’s daughter, someone’s sister, someone’s mother, but more importantly… someone.
  • Sometimes, trust simply isn’t good enough. Women want us to have faith in them, and believe in their love.  Taking her in your arms and having the confidence to say, “Because you’re my girl”, will always remain to be her pride and joy.  And if you do, she just might hold on a little tighter.
  • The worst excuse in the world is, “I’m just a man.” Own up to your mistakes and take responsibility because doing so actually makes you worthy of forgiveness.  If you’re striving to be a gentleman, then remember one thing: you want her to have expectations of you.  A relationship without them is destined for failure.
  • She doesn’t need to hear that you’ve always wanted to be with “someone like her”. What she really desires is for you to love her, for her alone.  And stop reminding her that she “looks” beautiful.  Tell her that she IS beautiful.  Know the differences!
  • Remember not to let your insecurities get the best of you. If you really want to prove to her how special she is, then stop worrying about whether she heard you the first time or not.  Give her the honesty she deserves without being afraid that she won’t recognize your heart.  Have a little faith in her because she knows, and women… they don’t forget things!
  • Retaliation is never the answer when she “nags”. Before drawing to conclusions, remember to seek after her intentions first.  You’ll probably be surprised to find she’s simply worried about your well-being.  Always bear in mind that women only want to know what’s on our minds so they might deal with the problem with us.  Give her a chance and open your heart because a lot of times, loving her means letting her care for you as well.
  • It’s not that women literally want us to read their minds. If you look a little deeper, they simply want us to make the effort to understand without depending on a bad situation to recognize how much their hearts actually mean to us.  Don’t come to realize how much you love her resulting from a tragic moment.  Love her more because you already do.
  • The key to winning a girl’s heart is not to simply make her feel beautiful. It’s to make her KNOW that she is.  And don’t tell her she’s the girl of your dreams.  Instead, remind her that she’s her, and it’s all she’ll ever need to be.
  • Remember not to always ask for instruction. Unlike the irrational chauvinist idea that women expect us to read their minds, they actually want us to love with our hearts and simply do things for them, whenever and wherever possible.  Genuine chivalry includes no limitations, neither tradition nor standards.
  • Women don’t want to be told how beautiful they are all the time. If you’re looking for your compliments to actually mean something to her, then take the time to explain why she’s beautiful to you.  Substance makes all the difference in the world.
  • Making promises that are impossible to keep is always a bad idea. Don’t vow that you won’t ever hurt her because eventually, you will.  Instead, assure her that you will never intentionally cause her harm because that is actually realistic.
  • If you want to be less insecure in a relationship, one of the best ways to overcome is by remembering the things that she said before. Women don’t like repeating themselves all the time.  This is why it’s so important to keep her past words in your heart, so you might reassure yourself with them.
  • One of the worst things you can do as a man is complain about your wife or girlfriend, especially to other men. It’s degrading, not only because you’re making private matters public, but that you’re embarrassing yourself by showing you lack the ability to communicate in a relationship.  If you have an issue, talk to her with honesty.  She deserves that much.
  • When it comes to being in a relationship with a woman, who was physically or emotionally abused in the past, it has nothing to do with patience. Instead, it has everything to do with empathetic initiative.  If you want to build a trusting foundation with her, bring yourself to a mindset where you don’t have expectations and open yourself with complete vulnerability.  If you really love this girl, take that risk and she might trust enough to let you in because you trusted her first.
  • When you’re asking a question, don’t go in expecting the answer you want while getting upset if it doesn’t happen your way. Instead, have an attitude where you’re not trying to control the situation, while accepting whatever might be on her mind.  Agreement is not always the key to a successful relationship, so don’t let small issues escalate into something big because of your need for unrealistic perfection.
  • Remember that offering support is meaningless. If you genuinely want to be there for her, make her realize your existence first.  Don’t wait for her to find you, but take a leap for her, so might have an extra shoulder to lean upon.
  • Keep in mind that sometimes, women like to test the waters. If she tries pushing you away, it might be her way of asking you to get closer.  Unless there is a substantial amount of evidence (judge for yourselves) that she doesn’t want you near, don’t walk away.
  • When breakfast, lunch, or dinner is served, always wait for her before eating. For one, it’s the gentlemanly thing to do.  And secondly, she needs to know her importance to you and that she isn’t being taken advantage of.
  • Sometimes, caring for someone has nothing to do with romance. Instead, it has everything to do with taking the initiative, especially when she feels unmotivated.  If you love her, be man enough to mother her with tough love.  You must come to a point of caring more about her well-being than losing her.  She needs to know how much she’s loved, and not only by you.
  • Every now and then, surprise her with things from your heart, especially during non-special occasions. Winning her is a never-ending tale of friendship and romance.  It’s about making flowers and chocolate so rare and obsolete that they become something she yearns for just as much.
  • When you’re feeling down on your knees, remember to do something to cheer her to pieces. If you want her cares, show how you want to be loved by loving her first; considering her heart and appreciating it.  Her happiness is yours just as much.
  • A woman wants you to change for the better, not for control, but that she wants the best for you. However, what she didn’t tell you is that she’s also trying to prevent you from making a mistake that might cause you to lose her.  She doesn’t want you to only appreciate her after realizing how much she means to you out of tragedy because a lost heart is one that hurts more than she needs to bear.
  • Remember not to tell a girl that the dress makes her look beautiful beneath the Christmas lights. Instead, tell her that she makes the dress look beautiful and the decorations glow because of her.
  • Don’t ever tell a woman not to feel sad, even when you’re trying to comfort her. She has every right to her emotions.  Instead, tell her she needn’t feel that way anymore and you’ll always be here for her.  There is a difference.
  • When a secret is revealed, don’t challenge her as to why you found out just now. Always remember that a woman’s love is a privilege.  Everyone needs a little something of their own and the fact that she is willing to let you in her heart means you are special to her, regardless of the timeframe.
  • The way to a woman’s heart has nothing to do with reminding her how beautiful she is at every given chance. Instead, it has everything to do with explaining to her the things that make her beautiful.
  • Don’t ever be afraid of opening your heart. One day, when her smiles become frowns, she’ll know she needn’t hesitate to reveal her own because you trusted her first.  When it comes to caring for someone, it’s important to focus on doing your part so she might have that sense of security.
  • If you’re one of those overly jealous boyfriends who is insecure and sensitive about everything, remember that during a confrontation, she is still with you at that particular moment. You are already in her presence and it’s time to let go of your fears.  Don’t allow the relationship to slip away when she never even left.
  • Telling her she deserves more and that she will probably end up with someone better is not a compliment. Women are fully capable of making their own decisions without the influence of childish insecurities.  Your confidence in her love is her pride, so always trust her heart.
  • There are many who think that winning a girl’s heart is the end of the road. It’s the saddest thing, but you don’t need to be like the rest.  When you truly love her for who she is, remember that you want her to expect something of you.  Her expectations mean you are an important part of her life.
  • Own the confidence to take a risk and say, “I’m in love with you,” instead of, “I think I’m in love with you.” Have the courage to tell her exactly how you feel.  She needs to know your strength for her will not falter, no matter the situation.